Forget A Friend's Birthday And See - My Story

It was about 10:00PM Monday night. Obviously tired, I earnestly craved for sleep, so I laid on my bed waiting for the sleep to come. As I waited, something prompted me; “you didn’t check your Facebook account today”. So I stretched and picked up my phone… logged on and found a birthday notification. It was the birthday of a friend. Haaa! This friend never forgets my birthday o. Like a tradition, we communicate just once in a year and that’s on my birthday – she never forgets, and look at me completely forgetting her birthday this year again. I summoned courage to call her, though late, but shea they said better late than never?

Facebook; saving friendships since 1999… thank God o. I remember those days we used to have a diary where we indicate the birthday of our loved ones: family and friends. Things have changed over time; ones, I used the calendar on my phone (Nokia 1110) to save the birthday of friends but after the phone got missing I regretted the effort I put into saving all those dates.

I have this friend that is very good with dates. She never forgets the birthday of her friends no matter their number. All you need to do is to tell her your birthday ones and it registers in her brain just like that. Till today, I still wonder how she does it. I barely know anyone’s birthday (confession); I even forget mine sometimes – that bad. Maybe I am over exaggerating shaa, but the truth is I don’t think I have up to 5 birthdays in my block head. Lol

I should have lost many friends because of this birthday issue, but somehow, I logon to Facebook and I am notified of the next person’s birthday. That’s one of the reason I try to ensure that my friends in real life are also my Facebook friends.

Ones, I forgot a friend’s birthday as usual and since I did not visit Facebook that day, never got the notification. The next day I went online and discovered and I was like, “Heeey, I forgot!” So I took the next phone I saw and called nearly immediately. When I mentioned that I was the one calling, she hung up. I was like “huuuh!” I called back like 3 times to no avail…. See one chance o (I know you are beginning to reason something else). Up till now, that friendship has not been remedied.

Last story: My Bae some years back will nearly kill you if you forget the birthday of any member of her immediate family. I used to be like: kini… is it your family I am dating or you nii? Since I didn’t have her family members as Facebook friends, I was always in trouble…lol. Unfortunately (or fortunately), our relationship got severed before her birthday. Sometimes, I just imagine what would have become of me if I forgot her birthday while we were still into ourselves – I for hear am o. Funnily, I didn’t forget her birthday after all and she told me she was happy I remembered even after all that had happened. Now see, on my own birthday she forgot completely. She only remembered after a week when I chatted her up and she apologised. Wetin I fit do naa? Lol.

Birthdays! That day you get to feel special because a lot of people remember you, get in touch with you, pray for you, send you gifts and so on… That day that feels significant to you because of the remembrance of your birth and the beginning of a new age. That same day that is like every other day to many people, no matter what.

When is your birthday? What’s your personal opinion on this birthday palava? How do you feel when your friend/partner/lover forgets your birthday? What do you do when you forget a friend’s birthday?

Meanwhile, Happy Birthday in areas to all my friends here at least for the rest of the year, because I can’t guarantee you that I will remember when the day comes, but I will try not to forget... lols. Happy belated birthday to you if your birthday has passed already.

Cheers!

PS. Our own Nwamaka Ajaegbu of Amakamedia blog, inspired this post in a post she did earlier. See below my comment on her blog and her reply. Click [HERE] to see more.