I have had this friend for over two years now and I can say that over the years, we have grown to know ourselves so well that I can boast of her as my best friend.
I was even thinking I would write “girlfriend”, considering that I am a guy and we are so close. Now I am thinking there is a problem. Who really is she to me? What is our level of friendship (or do I say relationship)? Why do I sound confused about my status with her? I guess me by myself, have pushed myself to a tight corner and I have to figure a safe way out. Funnily, without even proclaiming her as my girlfriend, my friends and family who have met her thinks she is… even when I try to correct the notion, they tell me to keep deceiving myself.
This issue is not peculiar to me. It is commonly discussed too when matters bothering on relationship is brought up. But have we ever gotten an answer that really helps? I am talking from the perspective of one who is involved at the moment.
How do we really handle friendship with the opposite sex?
I personally feel that we should live our lives consciously. If we do, it will help a lot. Things bring us together and somehow, friendship with a person starts (I am still making reference to the opposite sex). Do you really know when you start the journey through the path of friendship with that person? You should. If you don’t, take a pause and review the times you have spent knowing that person. The journey through should be intentional… this ways you would not take your actions for granted; neither would you take the other person too for granted. I say this because this is the only way you can really know where you are heading to in that journey through friendship.
I wonder how two people of opposite sex end up as best friend. Is it possible? Lol… see my nonsense question as if it is not my story too. But really, how does it work? Lols. I have noticed that people that get to this point usually get there not knowing how it happened.
…so she is my best friend, but I have recently met a girl whom I think I really like and want to date. Now it feels all weird. Somehow I feel that my best friend would feel hurt when she discovers this. I would tell her anyway. It’s not like I don’t care about her feelings, but I am wondering why she would feel hurt or even jealous in the first place - something is wrong… and it gets more complicated by the day. What have I done?
I can go on and on, but let me land my thoughts here in conclusion.
Personally, I feel it's not a great idea having a person of the opposite sex as a best friend if you are not considering having her/him as your significant half whether for a romantic relationship or even marriage. This is not to say that you shouldn't have the opposite sex as a great friend (don't get me wrong ooo).